Last Updated on October 19, 2023 by Emma
Do you want to pray for your future wife, but you’re not sure how to start?
These six hopeful prayers for a future wife can be helpful to you. The prayers are written for different scenarios and you can alter the wording to suit your specific circumstances. Use these prayers as a beginning point as you pray for your future wife.
If you want to go right to the prayers, simply scroll down and use the prayer that applies to your situation. If you would like to explore a bit of scriptural background on how to pray for your future wife, then continue reading.
What The Bible Says About Praying For Your Future Wife
To begin, I will share personally that I prayed for my future wife for a few years. In hindsight, I didn’t really know who I was praying for, I just felt at the time that who I would spend my life with was important enough to bring to God in prayer. Interestingly, the woman I married fit many of the characteristics for which I prayed to God, but in other ways, she did not.
This is to say, then, that, as you pray, you are trusting God to hear your heart’s desire and know who is truly best for you. Given that it is likely you will spend many years together with your future wife, it is worth involving God in the decision. Asking for God’s guidance and direction is a wise choice. You can pray with a trusting heart, knowing God will open your heart to the right person at the right time.
There is one particular Biblical story that is worth looking at in detail, as it helps understand the sense of longing you may have as you think about and pray for your future wife.
In the middle of the first book of the Bible, Genesis, we find the story of Jacob, who had a twin brother Esau. They were the sons of Isaac, who was the son of Abraham. So, Jacob had a serious Biblical lineage already. Jacob later fathered 12 sons, whose families became the 12 tribes of Israel. Jacob is a key figure in the history of the Hebrew people, so his life has many details found in scripture.
One of those stories involves Jacob finding his future wife Rachel. As Isaac neared the end of his life, he gave Jacob a blessing and guidance regarding his future wife:
“So Isaac called for Jacob and blessed him. Then he commanded him: “Do not marry a Canaanite woman. 2 Go at once to Paddan Aram, to the house of your mother’s father Bethuel. Take a wife for yourself there, from among the daughters of Laban, your mother’s brother. 3 May God Almighty bless you and make you fruitful and increase your numbers until you become a community of peoples. 4 May he give you and your descendants the blessing given to Abraham, so that you may take possession of the land where you now reside as a foreigner, the land God gave to Abraham” (Genesis 28.1-4, NIV).
You’ll notice the specific directions. Where to go, and to the specific person’s house. and the actions to take once Jacob arrived there. As well, Jacob received a prophecy about his future and the legacy of his union with his wife. Although you may not receive such a prophecy, this part of the story does reflect that God can work his will through a marriage, including yours.
Jacob travels to Paddan Aram and makes contact with Laban, his uncle, just as Isaac had told him to do.
“After Jacob had stayed with him for a whole month, 15 Laban said to him, “Just because you are a relative of mine, should you work for me for nothing? Tell me what your wages should be.”
16 Now Laban had two daughters; the name of the older was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel. 17 Leah had weak eyes, but Rachel had a lovely figure and was beautiful. 18 Jacob was in love with Rachel and said, “I’ll work for you seven years in return for your younger daughter Rachel.”
Laban said, “It’s better that I give her to you than to some other man. Stay here with me.” 20 So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her” (Genesis 29.15-18, NIV).
Jacob was clearly smitten with Rachel, found her attractive and believed she was to be his wife. He made his request of his uncle for her hand in marriage. Your circumstances are different than Jacob’s most likely. But, perhaps you know of the person you want to marry. You can pray for your future wife from that standpoint.
Jacob works for seven years per the agreement and expects then to be married to Rachel. This part of the story may be hard to understand in our modern reading.
Instead of honoring his agreement with Jacob, Laban deceived Jacob. He didn’t give Rachel to Jacob as his wife. Rather, he tricked Jacob and sent Leah, his oldest daughter, per the customs of the ancient Near East. Rachel was the younger daughter.
Jacob, of course, complained and challenged this deception and agreed to another seven years of labor for Rachel. Laban finally honored Jacob’s request, “And Jacob did so. He finished the week with Leah, and then Laban gave him his daughter Rachel to be his wife” (Genesis 29.28, NIV). Jacob worked those additional seven years and history proceeds from there.
What does this mean for you? Jacob worked for 14 years for Rachel because he was convinced she was to be his future wife. It means that if you are serious about trusting God for your future wife, then continue to pray in hope of that prayer being answered. This story does not mean that you need to pray for 14 years for your future wife.
The point of sharing Jacob’s story at length is not to focus on the exacting details, but rather on the perspective in the story. Jacob did what he needed to do as he believed for his future wife. This perspective can be useful for you. You can pray each day faithfully for your future wife, believing in God’s faithfulness for her.
How To Pray For Future Wife
It is vital to understand that you’re not placing an order for a wife with God. “God I want this kind of woman who looks like this and has these attributes.” This isn’t like checking off the boxes of your dream wife and then sending that into God to be fulfilled.
Your prayers for your future wife are really more about softening your heart to be the kind of man ready for the sacrificial love of marriage. In praying for her, you are praying for her to be centered on God, just as you seek to be. You want to be the kind of man she would want to be with and be married to. Praying and strengthening your relationship with God is a way to become that kind of man.
As you pray, even before you are married, you are bringing God into the center of the relationship. This is a key to a good, God-centered marriage. You are pursuing God now before you’re married. Your prayers for your future may be for her, this person you may not know yet, to pursue God in the same way. Isn’t your future wife worthy of your current, regular prayers? Wouldn’t you want her to be praying for you the way you are praying for her?
The wise author of Proverbs reminds us how valuable and worthy a wife is in our lives:
“A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies” (Proverbs 31.10, NIV).
Can you find your future wife on your own? Perhaps. Could a dating app’s algorithm lead you to her? Maybe. But don’t you want the God you serve to have the overarching influence in whom you marry? Wouldn’t you want God’s input on this most important decision of your life? Do you really want which way you swipe to be the deciding factor in the most vital relationship you will ever have?
May these prayers serve as a pathway for you to walk as you pray for your future wife each day. We encourage you to make prayer a daily habit, even beyond praying for the one you will marry one day. As you will see as you explore this website, you can pray to God about anything, any time.
A Brief Daily Prayer For a Future Wife
Lord, I pray for my future wife. I trust you to grow her faith, just as you are growing my faith in you. I pray for her to develop spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically by your Spirit. May you work in me to be the man she wants to marry.
I don’t know when or where this woman is, at least I don’t think I do, but I trust in you. I pray this prayer in the loving name of Jesus, Amen.
Prayer For a Future Wife While a Young Adult
Dear God, I feel like I’m at an age where I am thinking more about being married than just dating around. Although I’ve had different girlfriends from time to time, I didn’t really feel like they were the woman I wanted to be married to. I appreciated my relationships with each of them, as they were each nice people that I enjoyed being with.
But I may not have been ready to be married when I was dating them. Now, I think I am, but I am not dating anyone right now. I’m just starting my career and feel like I have some stability in my life, both financially and emotionally. I’m more ready for commitment than I have in the last few years.
So, I pray to you for my future wife. I don’t know exactly who I’m asking for, in terms of a specific person or even qualities, but I believe that you have someone for me. I pray that as I continue to follow you and be shaped by you, that you guide me to meeting her and getting to know her.
I pray in trust for my future wife in the belief that when the time is right I will know it and we’ll be in the same circle of connection to get together. I pray this in the name of the Author and Finisher of my faith, Jesus Christ, Amen.
Prayer For a Future Wife While Single
God in heaven, I am single, but I want to be married. I’m not even dating anyone, or know of anyone I want to date right now. But in my heart, I want to be married one day. I’m not sure what to do with these feelings, so I am praying to you for guidance and understanding.
My heart’s desire to be married is at odds with the reality that I am not even in a relationship with anyone. I think that means that I need to pray to you about my future wife. I also think that means that I need to focus on my relationship with you so that I can be the kind of man who can be in a meaningful relationship.
I’m not praying for a specific timeline, Lord, because I have no idea what that is, so I leave that in your hands. I want to follow after you as you prepare my heart for her, and her heart for me. I don’t know who I’m praying for exactly, just more the hope of being with my future wife.
Help me to wait patiently on you, as I grow in my love of you and trust in you. I pray for her to be praying this same kind of prayer for me as well. Keep her safe and surround her with your peace and grace. In the name of Jesus I pray, Amen.
Prayer For a Future Wife While Dating
Lord God, I am so thankful for my relationship with (girlfriend’s name). We have been dating over a year now and I think she’s the one. I think she’s the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. I also think she may feel the same way about me, but I’m not for sure.
I pray to you now, Lord, because I want to continue to grow and mature into the man she will want to marry. When I ask her to marry me, I’d love for her to say yes because she wants to be married to me. So, as I pray for her, I also pray for myself.
I pray that she continues to seek you and receive all the mercy and love and grace you bestow upon her. I ask that you help us work through any issues that come up so we are the best versions of ourselves for each other. Help us to communicate well with each other and deepen our trust with you, and with each other. I ask all of these things in the name of Jesus, Amen.
Prayer For a Future Wife While Engaged
God, she said yes! My girlfriend said yes when I ask her to marry me last week! I am so happy and thrilled and overwhelmed at the same time. I prayed for her before I even knew who she was. I prayed for her when we met and began dating. I believed then that she was the one to be my future wife.
Now that she has accepted my proposal for marriage, this is a prayer being answered right before my eyes. Thank you so much for growing my faith in you over the years as I prayed for her. We’re officially engaged and so I continue to pray for her.
Just as I want it for myself over the next few months, I pray for my fiance’ to continue to grow in her spiritual maturity, her emotional understanding, her mental strength, and her physical health. I pray for us to communicate clearly with each other during this engagement time. I pray for us to deepen our prayer life together as well.
My heart is filled with gratitude as I lift this prayer to you, O God. It is in the name of Jesus I pray, Amen.
Prayer For a Future Wife as a Widower
Dear Jesus, I have been without my wife of (number of years you were married) years because she died (number) years ago. I allowed the process of grief to fully work itself through my life and thoughts and heart. I was purposeful to not make any big decisions when I was deep in grief for my deceased wife.
But now that I have been alone for quite awhile, my heart is awakening to a desire, perhaps even a need, to be in a married relationship with another woman. I don’t have anyone in mind, so I pray to you for guidance. I don’t know how to date someone in today’s world so I am relying on you.
I pray for who this woman is right now and how we will meet each other. As I pray for my own heart’s readiness, I pray for her heart to be ready as well. Guide us to each other Lord and mold my desire for a future wife in accordance with your will and by your grace. I pray this prayer in hopeful faith through Jesus Christ, Amen.
Consider This
Being married can bring financial benefits, social benefits, and health benefits. Of course, you want to get married because you are in love with the person and want to spend the rest of your life with them. But it’s worth noting that marriage, generally speaking, is good for you and there’s a lot to be thankful for when it comes to your wife.
Praying for your future wife, then, is an invaluable spiritual journey and a wise investment of your time. Your future wife will hold a special place in your heart for sure, and it is a key insight to realize that women have a special place in the story of creation as well. Were you aware that women were the high point of the creation story? Woman was the final act of creation by God.
“The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found.
21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh” (Genesis 2.18-24, NIV).
God made women and they are God’s final act of creation. So, women are special and unique. Your desire for a wife is good and worth bringing to God in prayer, as it harkens back to creation when Adam was searching for a partner. Nothing else in creation was found to be suitable. So, God made a woman.
It is in this that you can have hope. As you pray, you are praying with hope and trust that God will lead you to your future wife. You are praying with hope that you are becoming the man ready to be married. Ready to care for your future wife, meet her family, and everything else that comes with marriage. As the Apostle Paul reminds us, we hope for that which is not already present in our lives.
“For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what they already have? 25 But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.
26 In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans” (Romans 8.24.26, NIV).
Can you wait patiently for your future wife? Can you pray faithfully for her? Can you stay calm, centered, and faithful as you go through the inevitable struggles that come with finding a wife?
As you trust in God for your situation, your faith will deepen and increase. Remember, your future wife is someone’s daughter and others are praying that she finds you. We invite you to share your prayer requests and comments down below.