Last Updated on October 19, 2023 by Emma
You have our sincerest condolences for your loss. The death of your wife, your life partner, your soul mate can be terrifying, disorienting, and likely the hardest thing you’ve experienced in your life.
Please know that the seven tender prayers offered here may not match up to the anguish you have in your heart. But we invite you to use these prayers as a starting point to get you communicating with God about the loss of the love of your life. We understand that we cannot cover every possible scenario so you are welcome to modify the prayers to suit your particular situation.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34.18, NIV).
The comforting words of the Psalmist can be a timely reminder that God knows your heart is broken. God is aware that you are hurting, literally crushed in spirit. By praying to God, you let what you’re feeling be spoken out loud, and even just in the speaking of your hurt, there can be healing and peace there.
Praying about the loss of your wife isn’t trying to “get over it,” and move on. Rather, prayer can be a way of living in the present moment, even if painful, so it can be faced and dealt with in the presence of a merciful and caring God. And, it’s okay if you’re angry with God over the loss of your wife. God is aware of the breadth and depth of our human emotions so don’t feel awkward about letting God know how you feel.
You might also benefit from looking at prayers for a person who has passed away, or even hopeful prayers for accepting death. Make use of this site to help you in your prayer journey. We welcome your prayer requests and comments in the section at the bottom of this page.
Short Prayer For The Loss Of A Wife
Dear God in Heaven, I can barely put words together. My wife has died and it still doesn’t seem real that she is not here anymore. I have lost my best friend and the love of my life. I feel like I’ve lost something vital that I won’t ever get back again. Help me to deal with this terrifying loss, somehow. I need you, Lord, right now. In the name of Jesus, I pray, Amen.
Prayer For The Loss Of A Wife To Cancer
Dear God, I come to you today with a heavy heart. My wife, (wife’s name), has passed away from cancer. She was a beautiful, kind, and loving woman, and I will miss her dearly. She battled so hard and for so long, but now it’s over and she’s gone.
I know that you are the God of all comfort, and I ask that you would comfort me in my grief. I also ask that you would help me to remember the good times that we had together, and to focus on the hope of eternal life that we have in Christ. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Prayer For The Loss Of A Wife To A Car Accident
Dear Father God, I pray now in shock and grief. My wife, (wife’s name), was killed in a car accident yesterday. I can’t believe she’s gone. It was a hit-and-run and the police don’t have many leads on the driver of the other car, which is very difficult for me to accept.
Help me to understand why this happened. I know that you have a plan for my life, and I trust that you will work all things together for good. But even as I pray those words, it’s really hard for me to grasp that this is reality. I need your presence and strength because I am weak, Lord. In the name of Jesus, I pray, Amen.
Prayer For The Death Of A Wife Because Of Long-Term Illness
Dear Lord, my wife, (name) finished her race against the long-term illness she has had. She died yesterday, surrounded by her family. She was a strong and courageous woman, and she fought her illness with grace and dignity, and I am so proud of how she faced this, even to death.
I knew this was coming as there was no cure for the disease she had, but it’s still tough to accept that she is gone. Would you help me to remember the good times that we had together, over the coming weeks? As I can, I ask that you enable us to focus on the hope of eternal life that we have in Christ, beyond the grave.
I ask all of this in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.
Prayer For The Loss Of A Wife Due To Childbirth Complications
God, I don’t get it. Yesterday was supposed to be a day of celebration and new life. My wife was giving birth to our precious child. But now she’s dead. I’m grateful for our child, but in the span of a few moments, I became a single father, without a wife. Our child now has no mother.
My wife was a beautiful, kind, and loving woman, and I will miss her dearly. I just don’t understand how the complications that arose during childbirth killed her. She’s gone and I’m alone. I am struggling Lord. I cry out to you for help, for direction. I don’t know what I’m going to do, so hear my prayer in the name of Jesus, Amen.
Prayer For The Loss Of Your Wife Due To An Infection
Dear God, I come to you today with a burdened heart because my wife died of a massive sepsis infection yesterday. Her spleen suddenly ruptured and sepsis set in really quickly. I’m still in a fog as I pray to you.
She had been a little sick with mononucleosis last week and the doctors said sometimes that can lead to this kind of situation. I just feel so empty right now so I turn to you to fill me with your peace and comfort. I got nothing left, Lord. Hear my plea, in the name of Jesus, Amen.
Prayer For The Loss Of My Wife Due To Emotional Distance
Lord God, I feel like I am losing my wife day by day. There seems to be a vast emotional distance between us and I feel like it grows wider with each passing week. I’ve tried to talk to her about it, but she shuts down and doesn’t want to engage the issue with me.
We’ve been married for some time now and I don’t want to lose her. Please show me what my part is in this. What have I done or not done that has contributed to this emotional chasm between us? I want to take responsibility for what is mine, but I need to know what it is.
Help my wife to come to grips with what she is feeling and share it with me. I hate to see her in such pain but I am at a loss to know how to help her or repair our marriage at this point. It feels like that tired phrase, “like ships passing in the night.” Please show both of us how to grow back together as husband and wife. In the name of Jesus, I pray, Amen.
Final Thoughts
Sure, here is a 200-word summary of giving comfort to someone who has lost their spouse to death, from a Christian perspective:
Losing a spouse is one of the most difficult experiences a person can go through. It is important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, and that everyone will cope with their loss in their own way. The most important thing is to be there for the person who is grieving and to offer them your support.
Here are a few things you can do for yourself. Think of these as caring for yourself in this tragic time.
Talk about your wife and your feelings. Keeping things bottled up inside won’t do much to help you, and over time, can do harm to your emotional and mental perspective.
Be patient with yourself and others who loved your wife. Grieving is a process that takes time and each person mourns in their own way. Give yourself and those near you some grace and space.
Allow people to do things for you. It doesn’t mean you are weak if you receive help. Whether it is childcare, cooking, cleaning, getting groceries, or mowing your yard, these time demands can be taken care of, giving you the necessary space to grieve and think and pray.
As you pray about the loss of your wife, I encourage you to also read some scripture each day, particularly from the Psalms. The prayers and songs contained there can bring your strength and comfort. As the prophet Isaiah reminds us, God is not distant but close to you and desires to carry you in this heavy-burden time:
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand” (Isaiah 41.10, NIV).
I hope these prayers are helpful to you. Please know that you are not alone in your grief, and that God is with you. There also are avenues to help you with your grief, beyond praying about the loss of your wife.